stylish blog award?

February 27, 2011

family life

 Thumbles kindly passed on this chain mail, which I felt inclined to respond to because I haven’t posted anything for a wee while.

The ‘rules’ are:

1. Disclose some things about myself by answering the questions below.

2. Link back the awarding blog, (click above).

3. Share the love and name of 15 blogs I’m into.

Here we go…

1.  How long have you been married and how many children do you have?

Not married, but after 12 years I call him ‘husband’ – 1 step-daughter, 3 kids, 2 dogs.

2.  Name one thing most people don’t know about you?

How disorderly and dysfunctional my early life was. It has taken a lot of effort to appear so well put together.

3.  What is your favorite type of cuisine?


4.  What is your most rewarding memory as a Mom?

This may sound strange but I don’t see parenting as rewarding. It’s frequently nice, funny, interesting, challenging, tedious, and lovely. I had to look up rewarding, and the dictionary said “satisfying, gratifying”. Nope, rewarding just doesn’t sound right, too twee for me. Maybe because parenting is always a work-in-progress, it’s something that you constantly have to work on. Unrelenting – now that’s a good word.

5.  At which store could you spend all day alone in?

Hate shops. All and any shops. If I have to be in shops, I’d rather be in them without the kids, and only for a very short time. If I’m pushed I could spend a few hours in the Rudolf Steiner bookshop or the Adyar Bookshop, both in the city which is a 90 minute drive.

6.  What was the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done?

My memory is so poor from a potentially fatal bout of meningitis fourteen years ago, followed by years of unrelenting sleep deprivation, I can’t think of a single thing. Convenient, eh?

7.  What type of work did you do before you became a Mom?

Still working.

8.  What do you consider a perfect day?

Sitting on a rocky outcrop in the bush. Doing some sketching. Watching how the breeze plays in the trees, the ants being busy, and the birds watching me.

9.  Have you ever done anything spontaneous?

I am cautious by nature so possibly not. Spontaneity and recalcitrant, introverted children do not a good combination make. The last time I spontaneously suggested an outing, I was met with howls of protest. It took 2 hours to get them out the door, but they did enjoy it.

10.  What is your favorite guilty pleasure?

Early Saturday morning, no-one else is awake, watching The Vampire Diaries.

And blogging, instead of doing the laundry.

11.  If you could meet anyone famous, who would it be?

Most of the people I would like to have a conversation with are deceased and were probably not very famous, with the exception of Sigmund Freud. But then I probably wouldn’t speak to him for fear of being analysed. Carl Jung is also somewhat well-known. Not so famous – Donald Winnicott, Melanie Klein, Wilfrid Bion, Erik Erikson, Milton Erikson. All genius.

12.  What was your biggest fashion blunder?

The whole of the 80’s were completely cringeworthy. Not into fashion either, plain and practical for me all the way. I like statement t-shirts. My favourite is this one (modelled by AFL player Adam Goode) which cost me 60 Aussie dollars but it was made for Apology Day…

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13.  If you could make one wish, what would it be?

A clean, green planet. When I did the When We Were Kids project, people only 10 to 15 years older than me talked about how the local river was so clean they could see the fish swimming in it. Not any more.

14.  What are you most proud of ?

Completing a Masters degree whilst working, caring for three young child, caring for an anorectic step-daughter, simultaneously studying an undergraduate degree, fitting in a certificate in art therapy, whilst my husband was also studying for his Masters degree. Blowing a raspberry at all those who thought/said I couldn’t/shouldn’t do it.

Now for the Blogs that I shortlist for The Stylish Blog Award:

All of my blog buddies. That was easy!

I subscribe to about 80 blogs and enjoy them all, so I have decided to list some (not all) of my favourite posts…

And finally… send a prayer to this family and count your blessings!



About hakea

groupworker, parent educator, therapist, mother of three boys.

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11 Comments on “stylish blog award?”

  1. kloppenmum Says:

    Trust you to change the rules to suit!
    Interesting list here, I can see my next few nights being spent on the computer looking at the ones I haven’t read. 🙂


  2. evafannon Says:

    Thanks for the pingback!


  3. darkstarburning Says:

    Thanks very much for the Pingage 😀 I was a bit surprised to see my confession in there 😉 As for Rewarding vs Unrelenting… I’m soooo in your camp on that one lol


    • hakea Says:

      The more we talk about mental health issues the less taboo they become, and the less stigma people suffer (in an ideal world). You were very brave. I liked that people were supportive of you, and most of all you felt that support was genuine and you felt that you could continue doing something you enjoy. If you would like me to remove it, please let me know. Both my father and brother committed suicide, and I talk about Depression in real terms in the community I work in. So much suffering occurs when illness goes unrecognised and untreated.

      Yeah, ‘rewarding’ is a word that people throw around when they think that’s what others want to hear. I like real words that reflect the truth!



  4. Allison Says:

    Thank you so much! I’ve been really enjoying your blog, as well!


  5. Yelena Says:

    Seriously amazing answers! Ok, here’s the question that I’d like to add to the list – how many hours do you sleep each night (on average) and, as a follow-up, what was the strangest place/situation in which you fell asleep 🙂


    • hakea Says:

      Hi Yelena

      Sorry for the late reply. I have been miserable with an end of summer cold. Our weather at the moment is fluctuating by over 20 degrees. Tuesday it was 36 and yesterday it was 16 (celsius). Crazy.

      How many hours sleep? I now get about 5 to 6 hours, which I am very grateful for. After shiftwork, and then babies, I now can blame menopause for a lack of sleep.

      Waiting for the weather report at the end of the news on the television sends me to sleep every time, probably because they report the sport before the weather, and there’s only so much talk about boofheads (football players) that I can tolerate. I think they should put the weather report at the start of the news.

      I have to get over to your place soon, to catch up with the amazing feats of Rocket Boy!


      • hakea Says:

        Most embarassing places I have fallen asleep…

        – Front row of the audience during the keynote speaker’s address at a conference.
        – When I was working in business, I was commuting for 4 hours per day. Very tiring. I fell asleep on the train as per usual, but I was in a seat facing other passengers. Whilst I was asleep, I had one of those falling sensations, and as I hit the bottom I kicked the shins of the passenger in front of me.

        How about you?

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