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the life and times of a fussy eater

January 9, 2014

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Got a fussy eater? Yep, me too. My two older boys would eat anything. They would eat a cricket if you put chilli sauce on it. But the youngest one was sent to jolt me out of my complacent parenting bubble. My eldest boy survived his first two years on little more than formula, bananas, […]

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pull-ups, not put-downs

May 12, 2013

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In her 1995 Boyer Lecture titled “A Truly Civil Society”, Dr Eva Cox, an Australian sociologist and social commentator, said that our homes are the most toxic places for our children. She said that it was an indictment on our society that children are safer with kind strangers in early childhood services and schools than they […]

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reblog: a quick tour through the inner workings of your child’s mind

May 11, 2013

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Sometimes, in the work I do, people want me to “fix” kids. But I’m not a kid mechanic. The best thing I can do is try to understand kids. It helps a lot to have knowledge of child development and brain development when trying to understand kids. When I talk to parents about their kids […]

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lying

May 5, 2013

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I was in the playground the other day at a school I work at. I turned around to find a boy crumpled on the ground, crying, and in pain. His friends were gathered around, doing what friends usually do. I think I asked the question that all adults do “what happened?”. One of the friends piped up […]

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backchatting

May 4, 2013

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In Australia, when a child answers back to an adult it’s called “backchatting” and is regarded as insolent and rude. I am at odds with many parents because I encourage children to put their opinions forward and I see backchatting as a defence mechanism. We have such a strong culture of suppressing children. ‘Backchatting’ is something that happens […]

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kid’s skills

April 15, 2013

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My youngest boy is the kind of kid who develops habits. He has had a habit of sniffing for a while now. It started with a bout of severe hayfever. I cleared up the hayfever by removing all yeast from his diet (bread, crackers, flavoured crisps, sultanas – yeast is in a lot of foods). He is […]

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be the change

January 16, 2013

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Gandhi said “be the change you want to see in the world”. My children were very little when I was studying for my degrees. When I wasn’t busy caring for them I spent a lot of time reading and typing at the computer. My middle boy was about three years old when he set up a desk that […]

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he’s doing it for the attention

January 13, 2013

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Many years ago I worked in the disability field. One day I was asked to go to a group home where I had not worked before. It was a busy morning shift , getting the five residents up and ready for their day placements. One of the young men in the home had cerebral palsy. […]

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fear versus love

January 13, 2013

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There are two base emotions – fear and love (Dr Bryan Post). How do fear and love play out in our parenting? “How do your words fall on your child’s heart?” Lisa Nichols. Fear-based parenting views the child as “bad”. Love-based parenting views the child as worthy of our love, time, and attention. Fear-based parenting […]

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acknowledging feelings

January 13, 2013

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This is an article I wrote for my Hands, Hearts and Minds blog. It is about acknowledging children’s feelings and emotion coaching. A beautiful technique for fostering understanding and resilience with your children (partner, parents, etc). Imagine the following scenario… You like to collect things or grow things or build things. It’s an interest of […]

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